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GUEST POST BY JENNIFER WEEDON: On Marrying An Actor

January 6, 2012

Today’s post is a guest post by the fabulous Jennifer Weedon! Jennifer is a working actor in New York City who also juggles marriage to another actor and momhood. You may recognize her from several national commercials, or from her work in both New York theatre and on national tours. Without further adieu, here’s Jennifer!

“Oh, I make it a rule not to date other actors.” I’ve heard this blanket statement time after time from fellow performers. And while it seems like a rather harsh rule, I completely understand the sentiment behind it. Performers and artists of all types often live up to the stereotypes about them. Many are self-centered, needy, dramatic. Some have to be the “star” of the relationship and can’t help but feel jealous when the spotlight is focused on their partner. The schedule of a performer is constantly changing. Book a vacation and invariably you’ll be called in for your most exciting audition of the year. Make a date for a romantic dinner and you’ll book a job that shoots that night. And who knows what time you’ll wrap! And then, of course, there’s the financial insecurity that comes with the career. Several actors I know say they won’t date another actor for this reason alone. At least one half of the couple should know how much they’ll bring in in any given year. And don’t get me started on health insurance.

So all that being said, why did I marry a fellow actor and musician? Because we don’t control who we fall in love with.Because the universe works in mysterious ways. Because when we met as acting students, I had no idea that the guy I was hanging out with would someday become my husband and the father of my child. 

Our careers have given our relationship it’s fair share of challenges. There have been times when we have both auditioned for the same project and only one of us have booked it. There are times when one asks the other’s opinion on a performance and we’ve had to honestly say, “It wasn’t your best.” There have been theatre or low budget film roles one of us has turned down because it would mean going out of town for too long or not being able to contribute to the household expenses. There are the inevitable disagreements any couple has over money. How much to invest in the “biz” when money is tight. Who needs new headshots more.

The most challenging time for me was the period when I was pregnant and the first months of our son’s life. Just when I was unable to work, Evan’s music career took off. I was thrilled for him that he was finally getting the recognition he deserved and supporting all three of us while doing what he loved. But part of me felt uncomfortable being dependent on money I wasn’t personally bringing in. And it was lonely staying at home every night, eating a frozen meal before I collapsed into bed until the next feeding session, while he played gigs in fabulous places, getting to eat out and drink with his bandmates. But after a few months of this, my career started to get rolling again. And I felt refreshed coming home to my family after a day of shooting or even just an hour of auditioning.

This year will be our tenth wedding anniversary. Coming from divorced parents on both sides, we’re proud to have made it this far. It’s taken sacrifice, dedication, and a lot of humor. But I guess I can’t really imagine sharing my life with someone who didn’t understand the crazy life decision to become a performer. Though I’m kind of hoping our son takes up medicine. Or plumbing. 

Thanks so much, Jennifer! Please leave her a comment, and feel free to check out her website and follow her on twitter! I love reading her tweets because she’s so refreshingly honest about what it takes to be both a working actor and a mommy!

9 Comments leave one →
  1. January 6, 2012 9:09 am

    Great post, Jennifer! Couldn’t agree more – “We don’t control who we fall in love with.” So happy to hear two successful artists are as happy as you and your husband. Best of luck to you and your family!

  2. January 6, 2012 11:23 am

    I love that you guys are making it work and that you’re juggling being an awesome mommy and an actor! You two are both destroying stereotypes one day at a time 😉

  3. January 6, 2012 3:59 pm

    Thanks for sharing your insights on this, Jen! Great post. And congrats on your decade of marriage!!

  4. January 7, 2012 9:24 pm

    I love to hear stories like this! I tend to steer clear of prospective actor boyfriends these days, but you’re so right – you really can’t control who you fall in love with. I love that you’ve embraced it, and you’re proof that it really is possible. Thanks for contributing; so great to have you!

  5. January 8, 2012 6:21 am

    That’s amazing and really inspirational! One would think that two actors would actually have a great understanding for each other, so it would be only natural to date another actor, yet the opposite is true, unfortunately, so it’s really nice to see the exception to the stereotype rule.

  6. January 11, 2012 8:11 pm

    great story

  7. January 25, 2012 12:38 am

    Awesome. Just for next time…the correct phrase is : without further ado, not adieu. I don’t know much about anything but I know that one. 😉

  8. California Triple-Threat permalink
    January 23, 2013 10:51 pm

    This gives me hope for the future. ❤

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